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A new era in eating

Gone are the days of spoon-feeding them purées, it’s time to roll out the wipeable mat for your independent eater! Let your toddler lead the way on their adventures in food. 

6 mins to read Dec 28, 2021

Now that your little one is officially a toddler, mealtimes are a whole new exciting experience—for them and you. Not only are they taking control of their spoon now, they might also be telling you what they want to eat. And while there might be a bit of mess in the beginning, it’s all part of the fun. You can look forward to enjoying family meals together—a time to connect and catch up, with everyone enjoying the same dishes. As they master their self-feeding skills, it’s more important than ever to offer your toddler a variety of nutritious foods, and let them decide if, and how much, they want to eat.

The birthday cake dilemma

At their recent first birthday, did you struggle with the decision as to whether to let your baby eat cake for the first time? Special occasion foods, such as birthday cake, only appear on the table for celebrations. As long as you respected their cues—allowing a taste, without any pressure, you can feel comfortable that you followed the principles of responsive feeding. The key is to emphasize the link between specific foods and family events.

Research in older children shows that the more parents say a food is never allowed, the more likely the children will overindulge in it when given the chance. What’s more, restricting food makes it harder for your toddler to recognize their own hunger and fullness signs, and can lead to them becoming overweight when they’re older.

Set a good example and they’ll gradually start eating the same healthy meals that you enjoy—and if you feel improvements could be made in your own diet, now is the time to make them. Remember that your toddler-age child will look to you for examples. If you end each meal with a sweet treat or dessert, they’ll likely want the same too. Follow our checklist below and let them explore their tastebuds for themself.

  1. Cut up soft foods so they’re easy to eat

    By now, your toddler will have practiced eating different textures and they may even have several teeth. Remember, they’re still learning how to chew and swallow. Be sure to cut up their food into small, bite-sized pieces. These should be no larger than 1.5cm (1/2 inch) to enable them to pick up what they choose and easily gum or chew it.

  2. Keep offering a variety of healthy foods

    Sometimes toddlers need to try a new food up to eight times before they decide they like it, so don’t give up! A recent study showed that toddlers who had tried more fruits and vegetables at 14 months old, enjoyed a wider range of fruits and vegetables between three and four years of age. Continue to offer a variety of healthy foods and let them explore—with all their senses—new colours, textures, and flavours when they’re ready. They’ll decide what and how much they want to eat.

  3. Hold the salt and sugar

    Don’t worry if you think your toddler’s food tastes plain—they don’t need the added salt or sugar that you may have become accustomed to, and introducing these at a young age means they may develop a taste for them as they grow up. You can always add a little flavour with herbs or spices. Set aside a portion of the family meal for your little one first, before adding any extra salt or sugar to the rest of the family’s meal—or treat this as an opportunity for you all to cut down.

  4. Watch that they don’t overfill their mouth

    Now that they’re feeding themself, keep a close eye on your toddler to make sure they’re not packing too much into their mouth at one time. Offer just a few finger foods or diced pieces at a time, which can break up easily in their mouth. Check to see that they’re finished them before you offer any more.

  5. Make sure they’re seated, supervised, and safe

    Sitting at the table during mealtimes not only lets your toddler enjoy this special family time together, it may also mean they have a healthier diet and better eating habits when they’re older. Strap them into their highchair and pull it up to the family table. Never leave them unattended. Serve all meals—including snacks—at the table. Do the same thing when you are out and about.

  6. Avoid choking risks

    As they become more confident in their independent eating, be even more mindful of choking risks. Avoid offering large chunks of any kind of food, and watch out for things that are round, hard, sticky, small, or chewy. Whole nuts, seeds, and popcorn, are off the menu. Carrots and green beans must be cooked and diced, grapes and cherry tomatoes quartered, sausages cut up lengthwise and sliced, and nut butters spread thinly on bread, before serving to your toddler.

  7. Don’t give favourites as rewards

    Avoid offering their favourite foods in an attempt to get him to eat something, or as a reward for trying something they don’t like. This may only reinforce their lack of interest in new foods and makes them less likely to develop a taste for them.

  8. Offer water in a cup

    There’s no room in your toddler’s little tummy for empty calories from sugar-sweetened beverages. Offer water or milk (breast milk, whole cow’s milk, or growing-up milk) in a cup at every meal and snack time. 

 Keep on track

With such an array of new foods to offer, it may be difficult sometimes to keep up with what your toddler is eating over the course of a week. Print out our handy Food Tracker, stick it on your fridge, and fill it out every day to see if your little one is eating from each of the five food groups, giving them the nutrients they need to grow big and strong for more adventures.  

Introducing new foods - A new era in eating

What patterns did you notice in your toddler's diet? Do they eat foods from each of the food groups on the days you checked? What, if any, food groups does your little one seem to be missing? 


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